In Chapter 5 of The Dating Diary of Miss X, our very single and very anonymous Miss X talks about Mr French and paying the bill.
This is an interesting question raised when I was seeing a chap called Mr French. Â Â Yes heâ€™s French!
I met him at a party and although he and I were both flitting between people. I realised by the end of the evening that he was actually quite decent as per usual Iâ€™d gone for most of the good looking (those are the good looking but caddish men usually)Â so I facebooked him over the next few days. We had a mutual friend so this was easy.
He responded well, almost too well and was very persistent about meeting up which was all fine. Finally we met and I was certain it was classed as a first date a couple of months ago. Â Another guy though who was not quite settled in his job and I could see he was slightly troubled. I do meet them!
I always had the impression that French guys were gentlemanly, romantic and chivalrous. He was on some accounts but on the first date â€œbroke every ruleâ€ as they say. But then there shouldnâ€™t be any rules. He persistently asked about my exes, who Iâ€™ve been with, how long, why it ended and then took me to a restaurant and we ended up splitting the bill.
This led me to a question which I have been pondering ever since. On a date who foots the bill or should it be split? I have no problem doing the splitting or even paying but perhaps I am a little old fashioned and on the first date like to allow the chap to be a â€œgentlemanâ€ and perhaps at least offer?Â I am self-sufficient and can pay my way but that is not the point.
Yes we chatted earlier and agreed it was a date â€“ so surely the guy can pay on the first date?
It was a lovely restaurant but quite cheap overall.
The bill arrived and rather than he take it, the Bill was left on the table. After a few minutes of nervous chatting I said â€œoh look there is the billâ€Â He almost seem to disregard it and then took it and gave me a look as if to say â€œare you about to cough upâ€Â I felt it was right to say something and I said so â€œare we going dutch then?â€Â Surely he should and could have said No Iâ€™ll pay â€“ but that didnâ€™t arise so we split it.
After this interesting scenario I havenâ€™t actually seen him since â€“ mainly due to the fact he is back in France for a few months. We are still facebooking and there was a plan to go to visit him in the South, but it hasnâ€™t felt right.
Check back next Friday for Chapter 6 of The Dating Diary of Miss X
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