Dear Agony Uncle,
How do I tell my housemate nicely that she really needs to close her mouth while she chews? Seriously, she is a 20-year-old!
Dear Chewed Up,
Chewing with oneâ€™s mouth closed is one of the simplest bodily functions that divides the cultured from the zoo animals, yet so many cannot master the art of mastication. Thereâ€™s no worse than being seated across from someone whose slack jaw reveals the contents of their bouche ouverte from which a chaff bag wouldnâ€™t appear out-of-place; likewise if they were crouching on their haunches, shovelling torn pieces of a carcass into their waiting pie hole whilst scratching their armpits between bites.
Then thereâ€™s that horribly uncouth joke where someone asks you if you like seafood and if you reply â€˜yesâ€™, they open their mouth and show you whatever happens to be ground up inside. Delightful. If youâ€™re going to cause offence, youâ€™re better to do so with a witty quip that further marginalises a repressed minority with a killer punchline than reverting to base humour fit for a primary school playground.
As you said yourself, your housemate is of an age that she should know better than to share her meal visually with anyone who deigns not to do so, however, itâ€™s important for you to exercise tact, particularly as you live together. If you wish to take a slightly indirect approach, ask her whilst sheâ€™s eating if she has a cold. Of course, sheâ€™ll reply that she hasnâ€™t and will enquire why you ask. A simple â€œOh, youâ€™re chewing with your mouth open and I thought your nose must be blockedâ€ should do the trick if she has half a brain; thus giving her a bit a of a nudge to keep her trap shut.
If, however, sheâ€™s not the sharpest knife in the block, then maybe you need to be a little more confrontational, in the nicest possibly way, of course. Schedule a dinner where she prepares the meal and sandwich the criticism between two slices of pleasantness by telling her you enjoy her cooking and while itâ€™s delicious, itâ€™s awful to look at when itâ€™s half consumed; then conclude by telling her that youâ€™re only pointing it out as you donâ€™t want her to embarrass herself.
She might acknowledge her poor manners, apologise and then change her behaviour, or she might react badly and youâ€™ll end up covered in mushroom casserole. If itâ€™s something you can no longer tolerate, then perhaps itâ€™s worth the risk; if not, then maybe you should start taking your meals at different times: Contact your local zoo, find out when is feeding time and plan around it.
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