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Dating in the Workplace – Recipe for Disaster?

London Life Coach & Relationship Expert Sloan Sheridan-Williams talks about workplace dating. Follow Sloan on Twitter @SloanSW_London and check out Sloan’s website www.sloansw.com

Dating at work is definitely becoming more commonplace but just because everyone else is doing it, does that mean you should too? If that was the case then I’d dye my hair the new trendy shade of orange in the style of Pixie Geldof and watch as my clients flocked anywhere but my therapy couch!

Dating is a form of interaction - in the olden days more a courtship. With the hours of workers increasing and the recession playing its part in the reduction in socialising, is it any wonder we are looking to find love over the photocopier?

The muddy waters tend to appear if you work in very close proximity or the hierarchy of either of your positions has an effect on your working life.

I am not saying you cannot meet the perfect person for you at work, but just before you jump in with both feet, perhaps ask yourself:

1. Is this just a natural progression as we spend so much time together and we would like to get to know each other on a romantic level?

2. Would I still have chosen to date my current object of affection if I managed my time better, accepted a few more invitations out with my friends and opened myself up to meeting new people?

If your answer to the first question was yes, perhaps take the leap but don’t forget your safety net. If you answered yes to the second, run while you still can – you deserve better.

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About the Author: Sloan Sheridan-Williams is currently known for her work as one of the leading “diagnostitians in the complementary therapy world” with a wealth of experience from over a decade of practice. Sloan was originally known in her capacity as an experienced therapist and success coach, but she is impossible to pigeon hole. Over the last 15 years, she has had the opportunity to work in many different arenas from legal to political, medical to media, and corporate to academia. Educated at Oxford University where she originally read Medicine, Sloan then attended University College London before converting to Law studying at the College of Law. Sloan continued her education at Hertfordshire University and then at King’s College London, to name but a few. Sloan has enough experience of someone twice her age. Sloan has collaborated with some of the finest institutions in the country, if not the world and has had the pleasure to work with some very talented individuals taking them to even greater heights. She now writes as Sloan on numerous projects, while still finding the time to continue as a therapist and coach. On a slight tangent to her medical background, her side interest is Medical Ethics, in which she acquired a Masters of Law. In her spare time, when she is not fundraising for numerous charities or coaching rowing, Sloan is often seen debating with the best on topical issues. Visit www.sloansw.com and follow Sloan on Twitter @SloanSW_London

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    October 21 2011
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    • Bagney

      I just had to comment – great info thanks!

      September 20 2011
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      • Adelaide Summers

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        September 19 2011
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        • Dining In

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          August 27 2011
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          • Hi Louis,

            Thank you for sharing your comments. I agree, infact careful thought before a leap of faith is in my book a necessity in these scenarios.

            Indeed, dating in the workplace opens up many avenues for good and bad. Even if the couple stay together the whole keeping it secret seems a favourable option. It appears when going public, ‘gossip’ is always a factor, not to mention jealousy which can either come from co-workers or within the couple. 

            And when the one in five make it to marriage, there is the happily married couple that works together straining the relationship by spending long hours together with little space/freedom. These couples often then drag their co-workers into their drama when they fight, and they will because all couples do but in this case it results in a less productive work environment.

            However, despite these negatives 20% make it to marriage and over half of these couples stay together. So depending on ones perception these could be good odds. 

            It goes back to the classic – glass half full, glass half empty analogy… Are we 20% likely to find lasting happiness or 80% likely to fail?

            April 12 2011
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            • Louis Maurati

              This article is very relevant today. I’ve seen firsthand how easy it is for people to jump into relationships (secretly) in the workplace. When the relationship fails, going into work can become a sudden nightmare. People should really weigh all the pros and cons outlined in this article before taking such a leap of faith!

              April 11 2011
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              • aromatherapy

                This article was vey helpful to me. It helped me to be informed and more aware. The details were such a blessing, thanks.

                April 07 2011
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