Let’s say you’ve met someone special on a dating site such as MySingleFriend. You’ve chatted online for a while, been on a few dates and now things are starting to get serious. Perhaps you’ve had to start moving your schedule around to fit in dates, or maybe have even had to cancel a few.
It can be difficult to fit a new relationship into a busy lifestyle but it is possible, especially if you want a relationship to work.
Is there anything you can cut out?
Think about the things you do regularly, do you enjoy them all? If there’s an activity or engagement that you no longer enjoy then this could be the perfect chance to get out of it.
You don’t necessarily need to give up on something all together but perhaps cut down on how much it eats into your schedule. This might be lengthy gym sessions (try a quick HIIT session instead), a book club or meetings with old friends with whom you no longer have anything in common with.
Get your new love involved
If you have a weekly pub quiz evening that you’d hate to miss, it could be a good way to introduce your new boyfriend/girlfriend to your friends while spending some time doing something fun. This goes for any activity that takes up a good chunk of your time.
You’ll never know if they’ll be interested until you ask. You might find out that you share a love of golf and can start playing together. Once a relationship starts to become really serious, you’ll realise that being partners in everything you do is the key to a strong relationship that will continue to grow for years to come.
Set aside time
If you’re serious about a relationship then you will set aside time for dates. It might be half an hour in the middle of your working day to meet for a coffee, or it might be an entire Saturday so you can go for a picnic and a walk.
Don’t just try and fit this new person in your life into your existing schedule, you must be willing to make sacrifices and move your schedule around. You could even have a regular date night, which means you’ll get to see each other at least once a week without fail.
It’s okay to say no
We all have commitments but it’s okay to say no every once in a while. If your friends want you to come out for drinks but you haven’t seen your significant other in days, it’s okay to say no. If your friends are the true kind, they’ll completely understand. That’s not to say you should ditch your mates for a new relationship but it’s okay to say no occasionally.
The same goes for work: you might be asked to work late but you may already have plans. Say no. It’s not fair to work all hours just because someone asked you nicely, you have a life too.
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