Tinder Dating App: Light Me Up!

So… Tinder.  The free app that lets you anonymously ‘like’ people based purely on their photos, and then ‘matches’ you if you both like each other.  Online dating made incredibly simple.  No cringe-worthy Match.com profiles here, no description of personality, no ‘this is what I’m looking for’.  The only question … Continue reading

Challenging Family Relationships

One of the most frequent things that I hear when I talk to people about loving yourself first is “How do I deal with negative family members?” This is a great question. There are no absolute answers to this but I will offer my opinion on the subject.   Every … Continue reading

Separate Togetherness

Hmmmmm! I thought it was about time to discuss and analyse the concept of separate-togetherness. Either you want to be with somebody in a relationship, or you don’t!  If only life was black and white with no fifty shades in between. So, how much togetherness do you share? Every other night, … Continue reading

Love Labour’s Lost

Remember when Aristotle claimed that ‘Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies’? Well no, of course not, but we have all heard the quote, we have all dreamed and desired to love someone as passionately and ferociously as that, but have we all lost faith in relationships … Continue reading

I Don’t Love My Hubby Now He’s Tubby

Dear Sharon, I married my husband because he was handsome and sexy and I knew there was no way I should even have a shot with him – let alone a relationship. For some reason he really loved me and wanted to marry me. I didn’t want to lose him … Continue reading

Men – Can They Ever Get It Right?

Sweeping remark I know, and just as easily, so are women… however, based on that premise: 1. How do you ever find somebody of your standing? 2. How do you ensure that the terms are equitable? 3. How is it then sustainable for weeks, months or even years? Chemistry has … Continue reading

What Kind of Singleton Are You?

Being single is something we all seem experience at some point in our lives; regardless of how we end up being alone its inevitable for most. But like most things in life being single has its ins and outs, up and downs and miss and preconceptions. We all know better … Continue reading

What if Fantasies Were Real?

I am writing this today, sitting on the London train smiling to myself innately as a thought or I suppose fantasy pops into my head.  The thought that is now making the passenger opposite me look up (as I chuckle obviously enough to be heard) revolves around the subject of fantasies … Continue reading

Love Addiction: “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me”

Ever loved someone to the point you would do most anything for them? Ever loved someone undeniably, irrationally, unconditionally? Did you ever think they could hurt you? No. Probably not. He is perfect most of the time, a ray of sunshine; charming, charismatic, kind, sensitive, receptive… he is your rock. … Continue reading

Does Age Really Matter?

After watching an ITV1 drama the other night called Leaving about an older woman and younger man relationship, I started to think …. If you are attracted to somebody, does age really matter as long as you are both consenting adults? It seems that there are certain tolerance levels, triggered … Continue reading

How important is sex?

Over recent weeks this question seems to have made its way into many conversations with friends, and after just finishing ‘Adultery’ by Paulo Coelho I thought that this was certainly an area for discussion. I am certainly not advocating that extra-marital affairs are sometimes the catalyst needed to rekindle the … Continue reading

Can An Ex Ever Be Just An Ex?

I know that what is done usually can’t be undone, new broom etc. however conversations recently with friends have made me question where do the boundaries lie with an ex-partner? For some this is quite easy I guess to define!  If you have been cheated on, if trust has been … Continue reading

First Date Alter Egos

First dates are like interviews. They are potentially the most intensely judgemental examinations we can subject ourselves to, initiating an interrogation from head to toe on whether those genes you were so generously blessed or cursed with will correspond sufficiently with what he’s potentially looking for… whether your pheromones are … Continue reading

One Love – Community, Circus, Change

“Community-led development” has become a bit of a buzzword in the NGO world, the Holy Grail, it would seem. More laudable, however, is “community-initiated,” especially when the people leading the change are children. In 1998, a group of children in the Ethiopian city of Awassa began to practice circus. They … Continue reading

Being Single Is Not A Compromise!

My friend came round for Sunday morning coffee last week (too early for cocktails, however you could argue that it is never too early for a Mojito). As we sat in the garden putting the world to rights, bitching about men and discussing how insecure and totally dependent some are, … Continue reading

Ecstasy – A Love Affair With Mandy

The “Drugs Live” show broadcasted on Channel 4 at the end of September 2012 provoked a prominent response amongst a large proportion of our society. To me, it struck a raw nerve as I recalled with reproach the fairly recent deterioration of a close friend upon succumbing to the drug … Continue reading