How is the One Night Stand Perceived?

It’s 2 am. It’s Friday night and the only thing you’ve had down your throat this evening is vodka tonics and the dirty blonde who’s name you don’t care to remember.  The bar is ready to close up soon but the two of you are not done partying.  The choice … Continue reading

Dating in the Workplace

What makes us want to date people in the workplace?  With the office being the forefront of most workplace shenanigans.  With nothing but computers, photocopiers and paperwork to focus on from 9-5, is it any wonder we suddenly have a look around elsewhere.  Steve from accounts has always been a … Continue reading

Speidi vs. Relationship Norms

What is it about this celebrity couple which has got everyone talking?  Are they playing a game with Big Brother? Are they playing a character for the show?  Or is this how they really are with each other?  Whatever it is that they are doing it at has got the … Continue reading

Separate Togetherness

Hmmmmm! I thought it was about time to discuss and analyse the concept of separate-togetherness. Either you want to be with somebody in a relationship, or you don’t!  If only life was black and white with no fifty shades in between. So, how much togetherness do you share? Every other night, … Continue reading

When the Honeymoon Period is Over

At what point is it that we notice that our relationship has slipped from sexy to slippers?  You and your man have been dating for a few months, maybe even a year.  Everything is new and beautiful (that includes the two of you), you and your man can’t wait for … Continue reading

10 Reasons Why You SHOULD Have Sex Before Marriage

This is a topic which I know that many people feel very strongly about.  It’s still quite a controversial issue for some people.  You don’t have to be Christian or Amish to appreciate the sweet taste of abstaining it’s something that many people decide to take control of and is … Continue reading

How Important is Money in a Man?

How much emphasis do we put on money when searching for an appropriate suitor?  Is it a factor inbred into our nervous systems when looking for our prince (or pauper)?  Oh none I hear you cry?  Money doesn’t matter it’s the person inside and that’s all that matters you say?  OK I believe … Continue reading

Love Addiction: “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me”

Ever loved someone to the point you would do most anything for them? Ever loved someone undeniably, irrationally, unconditionally? Did you ever think they could hurt you? No. Probably not. He is perfect most of the time, a ray of sunshine; charming, charismatic, kind, sensitive, receptive… he is your rock. … Continue reading

How to Fix a Fashion-Challenged Boyfriend

Adrian Fernand – Australia’s seriously stylish agony uncle and creator of idobelieveicamewithahat.com – answers your questions on life, the universe and everything. This week, Adrian has advice on how to deal with a boyfriend’s wardrobe which needs to be raided by the fashion police! Dear Agony Uncle, After years of … Continue reading

How to Tell Your Boyfriend He’s Receding

Adrian Fernand – Australia’s seriously stylish agony uncle and creator of idobelieveicamewithahat.com – answers your questions on life, the universe and everything. This week, Adrian has advice on the best way to tackle that difficult conversation with your boyfriend about his receding hairline. Dear Agony Uncle, I love my boyfriend … Continue reading

One Love – Community, Circus, Change

“Community-led development” has become a bit of a buzzword in the NGO world, the Holy Grail, it would seem. More laudable, however, is “community-initiated,” especially when the people leading the change are children. In 1998, a group of children in the Ethiopian city of Awassa began to practice circus. They … Continue reading

Opposites Attract

Struck by the way his dark mocha skin complimented her porcelain complexion, Her conservative image creatively disturbed by his sinuous dreadlocks and loose-fitting jeans, Struck by their contagious smiles, magnetised by their togetherness, I come to a halt, caught myself staring and wondered. Most of us can summon up a … Continue reading

How to Deal with Mobile Misuse on a Date

Adrian Fernand – Australia’s seriously stylish agony uncle and creator of idobelieveicamewithahat.com – answers your questions on life, the universe and everything. This week, Adrian has advice on how to deal with a date surgically attached to their phone. Dear Agony Uncle, I have recently started dating again after coming … Continue reading

First Date Alter Egos

First dates are like interviews. They are potentially the most intensely judgemental examinations we can subject ourselves to, initiating an interrogation from head to toe on whether those genes you were so generously blessed or cursed with will correspond sufficiently with what he’s potentially looking for… whether your pheromones are … Continue reading

How to Avoid Blind Date Disasters

Adrian Fernand – Australia’s seriously stylish agony uncle and creator of idobelieveicamewithahat.com – answers your questions on life, the universe and everything. This week, Adrian has advice on how to avoid blind date disasters! Dear Agony Uncle, I have a friend who is perpetually trying to send me on blind … Continue reading

Out of Date Online Dating Services

A new study shows that internet savvy individuals with demanding careers and busy lifestyles have not turned to online dating services to seek out romantic relationships at quite the rate that internet dating sites have suggested in their promotions. Alan Smith of the Department of Management and Marketing at Robert Morris University, … Continue reading

Learn Your Dating Shortcomings with WotWentWrong

How would you like me to tell you that you were terrible in bed, had halitosis worse than a crack-addicted garlic farmer and your choice in footwear was less than desirable? Didn’t think so. Now what if someone who you once dated, no matter to what extent of humiliation could … Continue reading

Challenging Family Relationships

One of the most frequent things that I hear when I talk to people about loving yourself first is “How do I deal with negative family members?” This is a great question. There are no absolute answers to this but I will offer my opinion on the subject.   Every … Continue reading

The Dating Diary of Miss X – Chapter 1

In Chapter 1 of City Connect’s brand new series – The Dating Diary of Miss X – the very anonymous and very single Miss X talks about living the dream in London. I am writing this on my very balcony close to a well known train station in London. Any friend who … Continue reading

Therapy or Tough Love?

One in 5 Britons has had therapy and the number of qualified counsellors has tripled in the last 10 years to keep up with demand, but does therapy work in the long term? Hypnotherapy is often used to help obese clients and those with eating disorders, obsessive disorders or generally … Continue reading