Hmmmm….well you can lose a guy in 10 days, so let’s explore ……
The question is interesting on so many levels; logically and pragmatically yes….in reality big question mark ….. In the land of hearts and flowers perceivable, maybe!
So if we take the scientific approach – what is love in the first instance? Can you define it, is it a rational, tangible or fixed. Well, to me in one respect love is innate, a trait something that you are born with, instinctive, you don’t have to question if you love something it just happens.
However I would also argue that love can also develop outside of the constitution and you learn. Women especially learn and start to acquire a taste which is why, however so stereotypically women fall in love a lot and tend to wear their hearts on their sleeves.
So based on science …love is part of our make-up and depending on who we are and the experiences we encounter … falling in love could be comparable to riding a bicycle; we fall off or out of love, get back on a try again.
So it is scientifically possible to fall in love in 10 days or even less, but what about the reality aspect – now I’m smiling.
After all of my articles on dating and men and the application of procedural almost anal tools and techniques that we women employ to get noticed, become more alluring, or asked out (forget the whole swept off your feet type thing – purely getting to first base) do we after all that have the time or energy to consider love? No, in reality falling in love in 10 days isn’t going to happen …. In lust, maybe?
Ok so exploring both the scientific and pragmatic, what about hearts and flowers once upon a time pathways with Sleeping Beauty and a true love kiss, or knights on white chargers and living happily ever after. You know this isn’t real….. right? You know this doesn’t happen against all odds, you know that to find that one true love within the confines of 10 days is make believe. Please tell me and share in my tale of woe and belief that finding a man, a good man, one that stimulates mind body and soul is almost impossible to find. A man that gives you security, identity and values you as a person and not as some fantasy porn actress is insanely impossible. In addition, one that also triggers butterflies in your stomach, charges electricity in areas of intense stimulation and makes your whole body ache with wanting and needing – forget it, no chance!
So although scientifically achievable, in reality almost impossible and in your own messed up world of fairy-tales no happy ending, that’s it I guess. Falling in love in 10 days will never happen!
….. The End!
But wait! Reflecting back on my earlier Hmmmmm! Who said in life we have to live by the rule book, who said that reality takes precedence, who said Sleeping Beauty in this scenario would never be woken by a kiss. Well actually, I say.
At the time of writing this it has been 10 days, and I know that in 10 days my friend has fallen head over heels in love with a prince.
A story unfolds in which is written, a chance almost whimsical encounter that could have so easily not have occurred, the catalyst that has triggered a good few chapters of fairy-tale material. The prince you may ask in the form of a 6ft, dashingly handsome (and very fit) Irish architect who by chance can also charm his princess with sweet musical tones as he has a band, plays guitar and has a voice like a fallen angel – yummy!
The prince lives in his architecturally designed castle alone with his faithful steed (well enduring but ever-faithful dog). He is intelligent, creative, funny, did I mention hot – and stands out from all the other suitors in the land. Communication is off the scale, so I am told (over 600 text messages in one week) delicious conversations, mind-blowing sexual fantasies explored but also foundations and building blocks for the future set (I know after 10 days). I have to question do men like this exist where you find everything you ever wanted and try as you can; he is in my friends eyes completely flawless.
What man after any amount of time is comfortable and excited about sharing their lives with you, opening up, being emotive? At a gig the other night he even put his phone on speaker so she could listen to him play and be part of his life without physically being there – Omg! How lush is this Irish prince and does he have friends?
So happy ending who knows, first chapters well and truly written, science theory tested and proved, reality sucks, don’t go there – fairy-tales can come true.
My conclusion, don’t ever, ever give up on love ….. all those endless times spent out with friends, socialising, scrutinising, monitoring analysing test results …. Why – your true love could be round the next corner, so just open your eyes and believe!
And yes, fairy-tales do come true …….
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