Do you ever feel like youâ€™re the last person in the world to find â€˜the oneâ€™? Weâ€™re surrounded by romance and relationships, engagements and sickening love declarations – itâ€™s just too much, right? Or perhaps we feel like that because secretly, deep down, below the pretence, weâ€™re secretly desperate to find our very own special someone.
It is hard though. By no means is there a quick-fix way to find someone you click with, have fun with and ultimately want to spend all your time with: however, there are things to help you along the way. Thatâ€™s right, we are no longer stuck in the times when the only chance you had of meeting someone was by bumping into them at the corner shop or at the local pub.
Take online dating. I really think itâ€™s on to something. We all have things we do and donâ€™t want in a partner, right? Well, the beauty of online dating is that the site does the initial filtering process for you. The reviews posted here might help you select a suitable website. You can add in your interests, personality traits, fears, hopes and so on, and are actually matched up to someone who says similar things.
Itâ€™s super hard to decide who you want to open up to and share your inner-most thoughts with, let alone deciding what you really want in a person. I mean, we all hate meeting someone with all the hopes in the world, only to find out you have absolutely zero in common with them, but perhaps sometimes we need to see what is out there on a bigger scale, as opposed to what we think we would suit – people might just surprise you.
Putting aside deciding on the exact type of person we want, the worst part in all of this is if you arenâ€™t someone who enjoys meeting people very often, it can be a truly daunting task. So what if itâ€™s not just fear of rejection or dislike that is holding you back? What if thereâ€™s more to it? Take a disability for example – and not necessarily a physical one. Maybe you have Touretteâ€™s syndrome, dyslexia or a speech impediment. It can be terrifying to put yourself out there with someone unknown when your confidence is low already. But without wanting to sound like a broken record, there really is someone for everyone. I once read an article in the Guardian that said, â€œA disability is not part of your personality. Instead, like race or sexuality, it forms part of the context in which your personality develops.â€
Read that over again. Itâ€™s not an issue, or a thingâ€¦ itâ€™s not anything other than you. And that in itself is beautiful. Love doesnâ€™t care about colour, sexuality, favourite foods, bad habits, disabilities or anything else for that matter. Love doesnâ€™t even see those things, and I am in no doubt that all the things that scare you or make you feel unwanted, are exactly the things that the right person for you will love. Thereâ€™s just one thingâ€¦ this person isnâ€™t just going to appear and you know what, theyâ€™re probably just as scared as you, so go on, be brave. What have you got to lose?